Author Archives: LaShawnda Jones

A collision of the feminine, the mammy, and the maternal

I fumed for a day and half after the interactions over the weekend (those that took place the day after she asked me to pick her up on the patio). The last straw angered me so much I didn’t trust myself to speak to her afterwards and avoided her until this light bulb went off… And the light bulb went off because of the way she had touched my shoulder as she left the room and said she’d see me later.

Are you focused only on what you can get from people?

Others simply faded away by not answering calls or responding to messages or showing up when asked or needed. However, not one of them had the decency and honesty to simply say, “I no longer want or need anything from you so this is where we part ways.”

When is the right time for marriage?

Originally posted on altruistico:
The right time for marriage is different for each person and unique to each situation. Maturity levels and life experiences are varying factors; some people are ready for marriage at 18, and some are never prepared for it. As the U.S. divorce rate exceeds 50 percent, it is obvious that much…

Happy July 4th! Declaration of Independence

When in the Course of human events, it becomes necessary for one people to dissolve the political bands which have connected them with another, and to assume among the powers of the earth, the separate and equal station to which the Laws of Nature and of Nature’s God entitle them, a decent respect to the opinions of mankind requires that they should declare the causes which impel them to the separation. ~ from The Declaration of Independence

What are you teaching your children?

I started to defend the mother, but truly, what is her defense? Low education? Low income? No family support? Limited economic choices? I’m a product of all that and so are many people I know. None of those situations can prevent a parent from teaching their children to respect their parents, respect others and respect themselves. ***Follow the link to read the full article.***

Love, Marilyn – Quotes from the HBO Documentary

The more I think of it the more I realize there are no answers. Life is to be lived. And since it is comparatively so short – maybe too short; maybe too long – the one thing I know for sure — it isn’t easy. Now that I want to live and I feel suddenly not old, not concerned about previous things except to protect myself, my life and to desperately (pray) tell the universe — I trust it.”

Sexual and Emotional Abuse Scar the Brain In Specific Ways

It takes a great deal to get back up from any type of abuse, but I’ve always considered sexual abuse akin to murder. It kills the spirit and the soul of the victim. Thank God for His miraculous healing power and for providing a way and a hope for the dead to breathe again. ThisContinueContinue reading “Sexual and Emotional Abuse Scar the Brain In Specific Ways”

Christian lifestyle is not a destination…

“I know, I know – sometimes you don’t want to overcome the temptation. You just want to do what you want to do. Times are hard. You need to take your joy where you can. I know. I’ve probably had the same self-talks, but I will tell you, there comes a time after you have surrendered your heart and your will to God that the temptations that once tortured you will barely register a blink when you’re confronted with it/them. The God in you is stronger than you think you can ever be.” Follow the link to read the whole post.

Over-extended

I’ve classically over-extended myself over the last few months. Over the last few weeks frustration and exhaustion have warred for my focus. My conclusion: although everything I’m doing is something I want to do, I would prefer to do everything I do well and also I prefer to be 100% present and committed when IContinueContinue reading “Over-extended”