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A Foolish Woman vs. A Wise Woman

The fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom, and knowledge of the Holy One is understanding. For through wisdom your days will be many, and years will be added to your life. If you are wise, your wisdom will reward you; if you are a mocker, you alone will suffer. ~ Proverbs 9:10-12 NIV

Foolish Woman

foolish: lacking or exhibiting a lack of good sense or judgment; silly; resulting from stupidity or misinformation; unwise

A foolish woman is a destroyer – she tears her home down with her own hands.

Her destruction reaches forward from her heart to the generations of her children’s children. She contaminates every good thing in her environment and under her control. She is lazy and self-pleasing. She is insincere and manipulates through a show of care and concern. She advertises pleasure and provides entertainment, both of which are momentary. In her presence is the illusion of life, but her ways lead to death for herself and those under her influence. The foolish woman doesn’t give respect, for she has no experiential knowledge of God. She trusts only herself and her means. She operates in the flesh only, neglecting and starving the spirits and souls entrusted to her care. Her husband is ashamed and disgraced, though he may not be aware. He is hungry for her support, but receives her abuse instead. She shares only her disregard, disrespect and her haughty, dismissive attitude with him. He asks for guidance and she leads him astray. He seeks comfort and she turns her back on him. He longs for companionship, but she’s busy enjoying others. Her treatment of her husband and children, prepares them for spiritual death.     

What good is a foolish woman?

She brings no spiritual good to her household. She is a drain to her husband’s soul and brings rot to his bones. Her wickedness derives from her lack of true knowledge of God and lack of respect for His divine order.

The woman named Folly is brash. She is ignorant and doesn’t know it. She sits in her doorway on the heights overlooking the city. She calls out to men going by who are minding their own business. “Come in with me,” she urges the simple. To those who lack good judgment, she says, “Stolen water is refreshing; food eaten in secret tastes the best!” But little do they know that the dead are there. Her guests are in the depths of the grave. ~ Proverbs 9:13-18 NLT

Wise Woman

wise: having the power of discerning and judging properly as to what is true or right; possessing discernment, judgment, or discretion; having knowledge or information as to facts, circumstances

A wise woman is a builder – she builds her home and she builds up her family.

She is a crown of glory to her husband’s head and he knows well the honor she brings him. A child of God, she seeks counsel first from her Heavenly Father through their shared Holy Spirit. Her discernment and good judgment is a blessing to her husband and children as she exerts her influence with knowledge, patience, love, respect and concern. She is trust-worthy and reliable; hard-working and well-respected. She points her husband towards God always, even as she stands and walks beside him; guiding him even as she is lead by him. A wise woman is aware of the power and influence she has, but she does not abuse it. Her strength is exhibited in her gentleness. Her love is expressed in her discipline. Her patience is seen in her teaching. She communicates her hopes and gives the best of herself always (even when quality of her best varies). She is a meticulous steward of her family’s possessions. She is generous with her family’s harvest. A wise woman cultivates every seed her husband plants in her. She answers his needs with an open heart, eager to be all she is called to be as his wife. She nurtures her husband and everyone in her household. Her hospitality is abundant and gracious. Her husband is at peace in her presence as are others. Her treatment of those entrusted to her glorifies God and lead them to the light of everlasting life.

What good is a wise woman?

Her value is beyond measure. Her contributions have no scale. Though she improves the physical lives of those in her household and community, she is a greater blessing to their spiritual lives. She deposits the Love of God, the Hope of Christ, the Faith of her husband and her own spirit into everyone who crosses her path. Her husband, children and the Kingdom of Heaven are the primary ground and the primary beneficiaries of her wisdom. A wise woman raises a child but nurtures a community. She provides for her home, but feeds a nation. She may have a modest planting ground, but she will have an abundant spiritual harvest.

Wisdom has built her house; she has carved its seven columns. She has prepared a great banquet, mixed the wines, and set the table. She has sent her servants to invite everyone to come. She calls out from the heights overlooking the city. “Come in with me,” she urges the simple. To those who lack good judgment, she says, “Come, eat my food, and drink the wine I have mixed. Leave your simple ways behind, and begin to live; learn to use good judgment.” ~ Proverbs 9:1-6 NLT

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A Faithless Man vs. A Faithful Man

What good is a faithless man?

faithless: unworthy of faith or trust; unreliable.

A faithless man is a destroyer.

He has no worth. No value. He offers no true contribution to life. His leadership is false – a distraction. He escorts those who follow him into darkness – sadness – madness. A faithless man has no honor. No integrity. He is without loyalty and has no comprehension of commitment. He is not worth his word and his word has no worth. He is full of deceit because he knows not honesty or truth. He causes pain because he is not a conduit of love. He takes but doesn’t know how to receive. He expects but doesn’t know how to give. He does wrong and demands forgiveness, but is too proud to humble himself and ask for it. Ahh, pride… all sin rolls up or comes down to pride. The faithless man thinks only of himself in the present moment. He does not foresee consequences for his behavior or fallout from his choices. By his actions he hates and humiliates his wife, teaches his children to mimic him and destroys his family for generations to come.  

What can you do with a faithless man?

You can only be led astray – repeatedly; you will never be led right.

But the man who commits adultery is an utter fool, for he destroys himself. He will be wounded and disgraced. His shame will never be erased. ~ Proverbs 6:32-33 NIV


What good is a faithful man?

faithful: worthy of trust or belief; reliable; adhering firmly and devotedly; loyal.

A faithful man is a builder.

His value is inestimable. He will give his life for you and ask for nothing in return. He is honor-bond to love, to cleanse, to heal and to keep holy the wife given to him. He is honest in his weakness and speaks truth to God’s glory. He recognizes his wife as a blessing made for the purpose of building him up so he can better hold her up. Because he loves first, he and his household are blessed by the fruit of love he plants in his wife. A faithful man communicates his intentions and his goals. He is humble and not self-seeking. He knows life is not about him. It has never been about him. Life is about Christ and he wants to know Christ better each and every day. To this end, he teaches his children to walk in the ways of God… as he does. He sets his family up for good success – as individuals and as a unit. The family relationships operate on honor, integrity, respect, love, loyalty and faithfulness because he exhibits these characteristics in his relationship with his wife. By his actions he honors and glorifies God and his family is blessed for generations to come

What can you do with a faithful man?

Respect and follow him all the days of your life, for his righteousness will cover you.

Most men will proclaim each his own goodness, but who can find a faithful man? The righteous man walks in his integrity; his children are blessed after him.  ~ Proverbs 20:6-7 NKJV