This is a great read for relational behavior. I am not yet married but I have certainly used the steps she outlines in dealing with other people – most especially those who claim Christ and friendship with me. Years ago, I learned that pausing in my anger and hurt and focusing on the fact that God loves the person I am angry at or hurt by had a profound way of calming me down and refocusing me on how to interact more peaceably with them. Sometimes that meant not interacting with them at all because it is true that we can only change ourselves; we can not change others.
